That’s what I want to bitch about today
Over the past few years, I’ve acquired a few different understandings and made a few different rants.
Well, I think I have a decent understanding of this now
Here comes the guys and girls mobbing to this claim “I’ve been friendzoned!!!!!!!!!”
The cold hard truth of it is, when you’re hearing “I just want to be friends”, “I like you but…” or the equally dreaded “it would ruin our friendship”, you’re not being thrown in the Friend Zone. What you’re hearing is generations of social pressure telling women that they can’t risk being direct for fear of offending someone. The words may be “You’re just such a good friend to me,” but the intended meaning behind it is “I don’t want to sleep with you.”
The Friend Zone is a bullshit, misogynistic, make-believe land Nice Guys have come up with to demonize women for not wanting to date them. They use it as an excuse to ignore the fact that there are Actual Reasons behind their decision to not pursue a relationship or have sex with this guy. You know, like not being physically attracted to them. Or not being able to connect with them. Or seeing through their crap and realizing that the only reason these guys are even friends with them in the first place is so they can get laid.
Look, you can claim the friendzone all you want but the basic point is, a relationship is a MUTUAL FUCKING ATTRACTION.
Why should the girl of your dreams change her preferences of what she finds attractive just because you were nice to her. Yes, women may bitch about how the guy they like is an asshole but that’s no fucking different than you whining about being friendzoned.
Now for the rare occurrence of it being flipped over and a girl gets friendzoned.
More than likely, it’s the same as guys: They don’t find you attractive or find a way to connect.
It’s not a friendzone, it’s called a reject-zone.
Sure, who knows, maybe, over time, that person you wanted to date may change their mind and give you a chance but that’s not because “they suddenly realize you amazingness,” It’s because people fucking change over time and their interests and tastes get refined because they eventually learn what they’re looking for.
There is only a couple ways out of this dreaded reject-zone too.
The first one is to try to turn the friendship into a different type of relationship.
Either a flirtationship or a FWB scenario.
Both of those have a much higher chance of happening if you’re a girl after a girl that isn’t interested because let’s be honest, guys are fucking horndogs.
The downside is, if you want to try to hold an exclusivity feeling on this alternative friendship, your’e just going to get hurt.
the best thing to do, in that situation, is to stay friends with the person but don’t be dedicated to only them. Go out and meet other people, flirt around, get to know people. In time, you may actually find someone better or that person may change their mind.
When you sit there in your own little bowl of misery, you’re only making life harder on yourself. You can call out for the pity party and you can say they were the partner of your dreams but remember this.
There’s somebody out there, somewhere, that would love to be with you but if you have your eyes set on someone who doesn’t want to be with you, you’ll never meet that person.
Oh, and if that person that you meet isn’t up to your preferences of relationship material, are you going to bend your ways to mend to what they want because you once experienced their pain? If you do, you will not have a successful relationship.
Lastly, if you’re under the age of 18 and complain bout being friendzoned a lot, please shutup.
You’re still growing up and you have a lot of maturing to do, physically, emotionally, and intellectually before finding the “love of your life”
But seriously guys and gals, get over your self pity and get back to finding other people that you could love/date/fuck/spoon/blow/suck/lick/whatever with